Debbie Dubickas Hypnotherapy

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Emotions Are Everything

 

I work with many clients that feel they are emotionally blocked and come to see me as it is affecting their lives in many ways.  Many are very successful in their business or career, yet in their intimate relationships, they have issues, problems.

No matter how hard they work and achieve, the one thing they struggle with is allowing themselves to get close to someone.  To love and be loved; To touch and fully be in the moment; To allow themselves to crave and have what they truly want, being a true authentic and loving relationship.  All in all, to allow themselves to feel from an open heart and less from the robotic living of being in their heads.

I believe many divorces and breakups may  have been avoided if only couples were truly open to working on themselves on all levels, physically, sexually and mentally.  No blame games; No control issues, just pure honest communication.

It was not my intention as a Clinical Hypnotherapist to work with Couples, yet things just happen for a reason and I go with it.  The Universe has had a strange way of bringing clients to me and I do not question it.  I work with clients alone as well as Couples in facilitating the unblocking of their suppressed emotions to allow themselves to let go and live a meaningful fulfilled life.  It takes work in letting go of the past allowing you to live in the moment, moving forward to an exciting future yet we are all capable of doing this, if we are willing to let go.

If you are feeling your relationship is going in the opposite direction and want to work on bringing it back from an open heart, healthy communication and real intimacy, please give me a call on 813 992 3330.

 

Debbie Dubickas, CHt

 

 

 

Have you Suffered Enough ?

Having worked with thousands of clients, I have dealt with many issues, habits and symptoms and believe it or not, some people will keep suffering and hold onto their issue/problem/habit.  So much so, they look on me being the facilitator as the enemy, the one who is calling them out.   The question I ask myself, and my client, is “What are you getting out of having this behavior/issue/symptom ?”

This is known in my world as the secondary gain or negative payoff in having their problem.  For many it is the feeling of significance.  They are being heard, they are being noticed.  For others it is numbing the pain and hurt.  For even more it is validating the victim they feel inside. For the majority, they have suffered enough and are ready to let go of what is no longer serving them in order to live a fulfilled and healthy life.

What I do as a Hypnotherapist is work with my clients in reaching their goals.  The vision they see from a healthy mindset is a victory every client is worthy of.   A life everyone truly deserves when they decide to let go of their suffering.  It is clearly a process and one session most of the time is not enough for a significant shift.  It is also hard work and you as the client do most of it !

If you have suffered enough and are ready to change the battle within your own thoughts then perhaps now is the time to change.  Call Soho-Wellness NOW and book your free consultation on 813 512 6920 – Make This The Time To Change

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What is Self-Esteem ?

 

Let me start off 2019 by looking back over thousands of client sessions which I have facilitated and look at what they all have in common – LOW SELF ESTEEM.  In fact, let us look at what Self Esteem really is.

A definition may be “It refers to an individual’s sense of his or her value or worth, or the extent to which a person values, approves of, appreciates, prizes, or likes him or herself (Blascovich & Tomaka, 1991).”  This may well be a good definition but how this plays out in our adult lives, takes it to a whole new level.

For many clients I have seen the “Pleasing Behaviors” which is exhausting and wears them out and basically live a lot of their lives suffering from DMS (Door Mat Syndrome) to those clients who continually beat themselves up by living up to their identity of “Not Being Good Enough”.   All in all, we live what we believe we are – the BS in our heads.  Some say Belief Systems, some say thoughts but I call it the Bull Shit voices that control us.

Self esteem is formed as young as 4 years old and it is how we view ourselves from the outside world and socialization.  The confident, loving child will easily express him/herself and feel safe in doing so.  In turn it does not matter what others think.  Whereas the non so confident child, feels not so good at saying how they feel or what they want, it will matter what others think and say of them.  This actually plays out in our adults lives, living in fear of  judgement.    The fear of what others think of them.

Many of us live in fear of being judged.  What would people really think of me as I am not as educated as,  not as pretty as,  not as slim as and certainly not as smart as.   The mask gets pretty thick and we survive out of fight or flight.

How nice would it be to clear the conflict in our heads and live with confidence, high self esteem and assertiveness in reaching anything we want.    If you want to live your worth in love, career, health and happiness, then I would suggest investing in yourself and being the best of you for you – you never know what opportunities are around waiting to come to you when you are coming from a confident open heart and clear mind.

In my world, everyone deserves to live their own healthy presence in the NOW and not live their story from the past. Let it be your time to live your best “Healthy Selfish Self” and I would be delighted to facilitate your journey if you feel the fit is right.

 

All the best for 2019

Debbie

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hypno Meditation

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Hypno Meditation Class –  Tuesdays 6pm to 7pm – $20 per person – max 20 persons

Hypno meditation is a beautiful and powerful combination of hypnosis and meditation. Meditation is the simplest way to achieve inner stillness and deep focused awareness and relaxation. Under guidance of Debbie Dubickas,  hypnotherapist, hypnosis shows you your natural ability to go into a state of trance.  This class is perfect for those of you who find it difficult to STOP your thoughts or meditation beginners who struggle with over-active minds.

Meditation pillows or yoga mats are provided on a first come first serve basis.   At the start of each class, there will be a brief discussion on what the week’s theme is all about then you go in to a few minutes  of breathing exercises.   During the guided meditation, all you have to do is listen to the sound of Debbie’s voice, as she gives you point of focus in the room whether it be a point on the ceiling or an object.  Once your eyes are closed Debbie shall guide you through a hypnotic experience  allowing you to leave the world behind. The effects of hypno meditation are powerful.  You experience a deeply relaxed and tranquil state so vividly in your mind, you can automatically feel less stressed, less tired, less negative.

Benefits of Hypno Meditation
• Reduction of stress, irritability and mood swings
• Improved creativity and your ability to problem solve
• Improvement of sleeping quality
• Improved memory and enhances your ability to think clearly
• Increased rejuvenation and revitalization

 

To book your place,  call Soho-Wellness and Med Spa on 813-512-6920 or online at www.soho-wellness.com

 

 

The Well of Passion is Never Ending

 

The Well of Passion is Never Ending

So many of us do not know what our passion is? We are stuck and clouded as to what we want, where we are going and who we want to spend our time with ?

Once we let go of our blocks, allow our emotions to flow and I mean all our emotions to flow, we are then in a position to allow our passion to come through.

From a peaceful state, our answers come to us and decisions are made. Our Well of Passion allows us to feel – feel love, drive, happiness and energy. With passion, we commit, take action and follow through.

We must be in a healthy place to take action which leads to results which is progression. Remember we all create our own reality and it does not have to come from our “Story”, our “Past” or “Childhood Perceptions”. We have the power to make choices that is right for all of us and that starts today by focusing on what each and everyone one of us wants and allows ourselves to believe that we deserve it.

My Well of Passion is the Ocean.

Debbie

Passion -v- Drive

In the work I do, I see a difference between passion and drive, yet both are great motivators.

I recall working with a teacher who had such a passion for what she did.  Late night planning activities for her class, going above and beyond with volunteering work and more.  Her pay check was not that great  and she was a very intelligent and capable woman who could have easily worked her way up within the education field yet she chose to stay in the class room.   She loved her job.  I would say that her passion motivated her every day.

 

Whereas I recall a client of mine who worked long hours as an Attorney.   She didn’t particularly enjoy her work (although she was very good at it), and she was rewarded with large paychecks every two weeks. When I asked her why she decided to be an Attorney as she told me there was no passion in what she did and she answered that “it was the safe thing to do”.    I would say that the motivation here was drive.  A drive to fill the need to feel safe and large paychecks was a mean to do this.

A lot of people confuse passion with drive. After all, they both seem to accomplish the same end result – the motivation to succeed. But there is a key difference.  Passion and desire is addictive and gives us pleasure.  No matter the long hours the teacher puts into her work or the over scheduled parent meetings, she loved what she did.

Drive is different.  It is perhaps about outside expectations from our parents and care givers’ influence whilst growing up.  It becomes “the norm” growing up and my client followed “the norm” in choosing a financially safe career.  The stability and respect she commands from her friends and family is a tremendous motivation, being what other people think of her really matters.

In the service that I provide, I can honestly say my motivation comes from passion and I am fortunate enough to have allowed my passion to motivate me and the increased pay checks followed.  The legacy I have passed down to my children is for them to “find what they really want to do in life, being their passion, then work for somebody else in learning the business, then go and do for themselves”.

 

Debbie Dubickas, CHt

Fed Up of Attracting Controlling Men ?

 

Same old, same old, I have done it again.  I feel mad with myself, why do I do it to myself?

 

If you can relate to this, then read on …

Falling into a healthy loving relationship comes easy and natural, a natural way of life.  However falling in love with a controlling male may be saying something about you.   Why are you attracting these men into your life ?  Why do you go back for more and more ?  Why is pain a way of life ?  Why do I have to work so hard to be loved ?  I can fix him, I shall try again, he is worth it ?

As a child, You may have perceived that in order to be loved, this took a lot of work, therefore in such a way, it was conditional.   Even though this may have been how love was experienced as a child for many woman, this does not have to be the case in your adult life.   It would have included a certain amount of emotional pain. This could have included feelings of rejection, abandonment, betrayal and violation.

These feelings would have had to have been repressed; because if they were revealed it may have lead to further control or even isolation. But these feelings haven’t disappeared; they will have remained in the body.

Once these feelings are released and you no longer feel comfortable with this kind of love, a woman will no longer be attracted to or attract men who are controlling. This process can be undertaken through the assistance of a hypnotherapist and various skilled techniques.

 

If you are ready to make that shift into loving yourself first and being worthy and deserving of love that comes natural and easy, then call Debbie now on 813 992 3330.

Thank You from My Heart to Yours.

I would like to personally thank all my clients for giving me the pleasure of working with you during 2017.   With having facilitated over 11,000 client sessions to date, I feel personally blessed to have worked with so many amazing people who have had the courage to change.  As the Serenity Prayers says

 

Some clients are not ready, some clients are scared of the unknown and there are some that have not suffered enough.  For those of you who are looking to live your life with Confidence and Worth in  2018 by being the version of yourself you were born to be, then maybe this is the time for you to come and visit Debbie Dubickas, CHt at Soho-Wellness and Med Spa.  Let go of the “ifs” and “why me” to “Good Morning” and “With appreciation and gratitude, Life is Good” living in the NOW  “It’s my time to reach my goals”.

Mind Wellness at Soho Wellness

 

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”
Buddha

At Soho-Wellness we believe in living in the NOW with a positive and confident mind set, allowing us to create our future.  However, this is easier said than done.

Many of us are going through life changes, choices, confusion, and challenges in reaching our goals, we are often looking for something magical… or someone with powerful,  mystical answers from other sources…      Unfortunately there is no magic yet we have the power of our mind.

Hypnosis helps you unleash the awesome power of your own mind to realize your potential and live it.

Since the beginning of time, mothers have sung soothing lullabies while rocking babies in their arms. This repetitious melody and continuous motion are both calming and hypnotic.

The power of suggestion has motivated mankind since the beginning of recorded time.

At Soho-Wellness we work with you to make your own hypnotic recording of positive suggestions in how you want to be, how you want to feel and for you to visualize you life accepting these suggestions.

In ancient Egypt and Greece, and during the Roman Empire, as early as 1000 BC, sleep temples were places that priests introduced the procedure and practice of suggestion – sleep – cure, the belief that the mind can heal the body.  

During the 1700’s, Viennese physician, Franz Anton Mesmer, developed the process of prolonged eye fixation to balance the animal magnetism, improved health in his patients, referred to as mesmerism.

In the 1800’s, English physician, James Braid, who studied Mesmer’s work and the practice of suggestibility, introduced the term “neuro-hypnosis” meaning nervous sleep, later coined the term “Hypnosis” as a new science for the very first time. James Esdaile, a Scottish surgeon, applied suggestion as hypnotic anesthesia in British East India to patients during surgery.

Indian culture acknowledges the concept of higher self, meditation, and other altered states of consciousness. Portuguese priest, Jose Custodia de Faria, referred to hypnosis as lucid sleep, determined that the better your concentration, the more easily you are hypnotized.

At Soho-Wellness discover how easy it is to go into the hypnotic state and feel fully in control and acutely aware of what is going on throughout the session.  Enjoy the experience and allow the process of change to begin …

As a Hypnotherapist, I work with client’s TRIGGERS

There are buttons/triggers that we all have inside. The emotion has manifested in some way in our bodies. Ideally in my world of service, I call this a “Felt Sense”, a sensation within.  We may have no idea what to do with our emotions – with our heart,  yet if we knew what to do with our emotions and how to transform those,  every day we grow to incredible heights – we attract things and people to us – our vibration rate increases – less doubt – less hurt – when heart is clear – just happy excited about life – generally feel love for ourself – deeper connection – state of peace – wellbeing – our natural state when our heart is not closed and not blocked – two levels – there is closing it and even if it is open there may still be blocks.  

As is with Law of Attraction, we all have vibrations.  Many clients suffer from anxious symptoms.  Under these symptoms is guilt and shame  – Fear of Judgement – being terribly scared of what others are going to find out about you.  In many sessions, underneath anxiousness, there could be a whole layer of guilt and shame.

Hypnotherapy has the tools to clear conflict and allow all of us to live from a place of peace, worth and allowing us to love ourselves and love others more.

Call Soho-Wellness and Med Spa to attend one or our Self-help Workshops or a private session with Debbie Dubickas, CHt

813 284 7045

 

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16 Feb 2019

Emotions Are Everything

  I work with many clients that feel they are emotionally blocked and come to see me as it is affecting their lives in many ways.  Many are very successful in their business or career, yet in their intimate relationships, they have issues, problems. No matter how hard they work and achieve, the one thing they struggle with is allowing themselves to get close to someone.  To love and be loved; To touch and fully be in the moment; To allow themselves to crave and have what they truly want,…

11 Feb 2019

Have you Suffered Enough ?

Having worked with thousands of clients, I have dealt with many issues, habits and symptoms and believe it or not, some people will keep suffering and hold onto their issue/problem/habit.  So much so, they look on me being the facilitator as the enemy, the one who is calling them out.   The question I ask myself, and my client, is "What are you getting out of having this behavior/issue/symptom ?" This is known in my world as the secondary gain or negative payoff in having their problem.  For many it…

14 Jan 2019

What is Self-Esteem ?

  Let me start off 2019 by looking back over thousands of client sessions which I have facilitated and look at what they all have in common - LOW SELF ESTEEM.  In fact, let us look at what Self Esteem really is. A definition may be "It refers to an individual's sense of his or her value or worth, or the extent to which a person values, approves of, appreciates, prizes, or likes him or herself (Blascovich & Tomaka, 1991)."  This may well be a good definition but how this…