What does infidelity mean to you ? It may mean your partner has had a sexual affair, a one night stand or more. Having worked with many couples facilitating their process of moving on from the infidelity, an affair does not always involve having a sexual relationship.
Infidelity is unfaithfulness in a marriage/committed relationship. Whether it be an emotional affair, whereby your husband/wife has had a close relationship with someone outside the marriage. Someone they feel connected to; alive with; desired by and more. This connection has them feeling listened to, appreciated and wanted. Something they have not felt in their marriage and is getting this feeling out with the marriage. In my professional experience, this is a very dangerous encounter and one, many marriages are not able to move on from.
It may be a sexual relationship out with the marriage; it may be an obsession with pornography as cheating; it may be the one night that went too far. It may be the full blown affair emotionally and sexually that lasted some time.
No matter what form of infidelity, an affair can leave the other person feeling devastated, alone, betrayed, and confused. Other times, couples can repair the relationship and make the relationship stronger. On the other hand the relationship holds onto anger, resentment, blame, shame and is not able to forgive/accept and move on.
The couples I work with know what their goal is before they come into my room. They either want to move on from and make it work OR they want to accept the relationship is over and want to end the relationship in a calm and accepting way.
I offer a safe place without judgement for the couple to be themselves and speak from truth. It may be that I have individual sessions with them to work on loss and grief and building their confidence to move on from what might have been.
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