With hypnotherapy, we work with the conscious and subconscious, in order to bring to conscious awareness the deeper source of the difficulty in the relationship. In hypnotherapy we begin by speaking to the couple together to discuss the outcome of why they are coming for Hypnotherapy. We then work individually to clear any conflict within in order for them to be in a confident position to make the right decision for themselves.
Very often during a marital conflict, both parties literally regress back to an emotional state indicative of a younger part of themselves. If we discover that our clients (or we ourselves) are regressing back to a similar experience, it indicates that the childhood conflict was never resolved. Or that the child’s emotional needs never were addressed.
During that younger time we made conclusions and decisions that have remained stored in our unconscious minds, just like the memory chips of our computers. These perceptions need correction. An example may be for the woman, “I am unlovable. It’s my fault ” And the behavior pattern that developed from this self-belief may be “I am responsible to keep everyone safe. I have to know where everyone is at all times.” This unconscious programming is playing out in life in many ways, these are the patterns.
The good news is that with hypnotherapy, we can use the emotional reaction of the husband or wife to do an internal search and discover why this couple seems to replay these scenes over and over in their marriage. And why couples often go from therapist to therapist searching for answers but nothing seems to permanently change the relationship or the intense reactions.
The major false belief that traditional relationship therapists have perpetuated is that consciously understanding the problem will change it. This is as false as believing that you can call an electrician to fix your car or your computer. The electrician does not have the tools or the skills to fix your car. And likewise, the conscious mind does not have the knowledge or ability to change the unconscious mind.
Going back to the cause of the beliefs and negative emotions and transforming the outcome enables less charge and reaction in the present day events. At Soho-Wellness we also have Licensed Relationship Counsellors who can then work with couples through talk therapy to enable them to build on their relationships from a place of harmony and truth.