Grief and Loss

grief-loss-coachingThey say time is a great healer when we lose someone. I say you learn to live with the change. With time you learn to adjust with the loss yet there are always triggers. Birthdays, music, smells, special occasions. These are often dominated by couples and people showering gifts on their family and friends to show that they love them. For some people, though, these times remind you of the loved ones that you have lost. When we look around at everyone else being happy, it can make you think of happy memories with someone that you’ll never see again. Instead of your heart swelling in joy, it feels more like it is deflating and about to break. You don’t want to ruin the good times of others but it’s difficult to watch them or be around them when you’re in the throes of grief.

If you’ve ever lost a loved one, you’ve heard dozens of people ask you how you’re doing. You want to believe this no matter how cliché it sounds but it is not easy when time passes by year after year and you’re still grieving. It’s true that you can’t rush something like overcoming grief. You hear this moniker so often that you begin to believe it’s true so you don’t seek any other kind of help. Time is definitely necessary in order to overcome grief but it’s not the only tool available to help you move on with your life. Hypnosis can help.

It is very common to want to keep your grief to yourself, especially when seeing happiness around you. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad about the loss of a loved one. A piece of you is missing and that makes it difficult to feel complete again. In the relaxed state of mind that occurs during hypnosis, you can learn how to let go of the past and feel good about your life again.

  • Make the decision to get help. This may not have occurred to you before. Grieving can make you feel left out and, as time passes, you might even feel embarrassed that you’re having trouble moving forward.
  • Moving on is not forgetting. You might have a deep seated fear that letting go of your grief will make you forget about your loved one. If you want to remember, you will remember. It’s about living your life without being held back by those memories, not forgetting everything all together.
  • There is no shame in grieving. Even with hypnosis, it could take time before you’re able to put your grief behind you. Whether it takes days, months, or years for you to move forward is entirely up to you. Every person is different and no one can tell you that there’s a specific time limit for your feelings.
  • Surround yourself with love. Don’t be afraid to be around those who love you or other people who love each other. Feeling grief does not make you inferior to them. You belong in the life that you want to live, not excluded because you’re hurting.

Hypnosis can help you with all of these things so that you can finally be free of the weight on your shoulders caused by the grief that you’re feeling.

Debbie Dubickas CHt
Effective, Affordable Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy
Serving Tampa, FL Since 2012

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