Seconday Gains

griefWhen a client comes in for a session, looking to change a negative behavior, I always look for the gain they feel by behaving this way.
From the smoker who craves the poison to the client who continually eats until it hurts.
What is the Secondary Gain? What do they gain from behaving this way? What can they avoid by behaving this way?
There is always something, otherwise why would they do it?
Something keeps them stuck in this behavioral pattern and the guilt they feel afterwards is not enough to stop.  The pattern will continue until they have had enough.

The feeling of having a reward.  The feeling of fullness. The feeling of completeness. The calmness and relaxation. The control. The ability to avoid some other, greater pain.
Even the poison of the cigarette can make you feel calm and relaxed.  Even the pain from overeating can make you feel in control.

With hypnotherapy, the client can uncover the subconscious motivation, transformation occurs and then the clients can feel at peace with themselves without the negative behaviors.

The time to change is now as long as you are willing to work and comfortable to go along with the process.

Debbie Dubickas CHt
Effective, Affordable Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy
Serving Tampa, FL Since 2012

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